Our other half, the one that completes us, our missing other half – we have all heard those expressions and more than likely we have used them as well. What are we really saying when we use them? In essence what we are saying is that we are looking for the combination of both energies and in that combination, we find balance. The flip side to that is we are convinced that our other half is what will make everything better, make our life complete.

How did this all start – a little history

The twin flame belief seems to have originated from the ancient philosopher, Plato. In his work “The Symposium” he shares the details of an androgynous being that fused together the male and female creating the ultimate being of masculine and feminine energy. The Gods, in fear of this power, devised a plan to dimmish it.  Zeus, acting on this plan split the being in half. The myth is that by forcing the being apart the newly created half beings were weakened; to further the punishment this separation forced the half beings into an eternal yearning for their other half.

This yearning, this searching, this is the place we are in today. Forced to feel like we are missing our other half, endlessly and tirelessly searching, believing that they are out there, we just have to find them. Looking for our other half, we are on this endless journey for completion of ourselves. Believing that we are but part of an actual whole person. So, we set out in search of our other half… the quest for our twin flame.

That is the over dramatized, over sensationalized over fantasied belief about twin flames; The reality is very, very different, and often misunderstood.

What you will find with your twin flame: The most powerful, intense soul connection you will experience (keep in mind this connection can often be confused with trauma bounding – but is very different), but this isn’t the romantic love story that we want to believe it to be. In finding your twin flame you will find your shadow self, the parts of you that you keep hidden, that you struggle to control; the parts of you that you don’t want to show the world, but here they are. The fears, the doubts, the insecurities, all the issues you’ve struggled with are now part of every day. The mirror of you, this twin flame – this is everything that you’ve ever struggled with, but now it’s in your face, it’s no longer taking the I will heal at my pace strategy, it’s an overwhelming, intense realization of everything, all at once.

These relationships are often toxic, unproductive, difficult, and confusing, with break-ups and make-ups. Because of the twin flame belief, we often find it hard to move on, hard to recover, we think we are supposed to be together so we lock into to this trauma, we become held in this space, the place of powerlessness, toxic, unhealthy, trapped in the abuse of ourselves and others. We believe that this person completes us, so we have to keep fighting to make ourselves whole, to complete the twin flame union. That belief keeps us trapped into believing that we are only complete with this counterpart. As time in this relationship grows you will feel resentful, angry.

The, is that even if we were separated by some evil plot to weaken us, that doesn’t mean that by completion of a re-union we are now strong, healed, that the world all makes sense, that all fears and trauma melt away, it’s often the opposite with a twin flame union. This union is part of our lessons, our karmic contract, we are placed in the path of our deepest fears and trauma in order to identify them, stop hiding from them and to heal. The reason for this great intensity is to amplify the need for healing, forgiveness, emotional and spiritual growth. This twin flame relationship is a test, a huge test, one meant to show how far you’ve come and remind you of the journey you are still on. This relationship is designed to highlight with great fever what is and what should be important to you, and that is you. The twin flame relationship forces us to take a hard look at the things that make you feel trapped, insecure, fearful, then start the process of trauma healing, recovery, and growth.